Unless you have been around the corner many times trying to find a decent man and the relationship where you feel secure, appreciated and loved and have failed over and over again, you might not even think to ask this question? But if you had, you might also have already fall into the trap of blaming the Internet or the way things are today, the values, the economy, the world order, the technology, we even blame our cell phones. Here is a shocking truth for you; none of those things are to blame. The Internet and technology hasn’t change love and the desired to connect with another human being. What it has changed is how people interact and how they meet, but this is about people so let’s blame ourselves for our weaknesses. When we blame those abstract objects we tend to feel better, we at least have something to blame, but we simply take the responsibility away and it doesn’t help us grow and improve.
Many women tend to blame men and I get it, but not all is bad news, let me explain. 50 years ago men were even more lost (emotionally) than today. Of course many men are still lost today, but many men have awaken and luckily for us they are also looking to find a meaningful and loving relationship.
Here three possible explanations to the question I haven’t yet found anyone. What am I doing wrong?
First possibility. You’re doing nothing wrong if you’re consistent, persistent and most importantly you have already work on yourself and have clear what you are looking for in a partner and also know what you have to offer for this new relationship. Finding the ONE is not always easy, but it’s possible. We need to have the right attitude to attract the right person. Now, finding someone is just the first step, even if he’s the right partner you have to be prepared to have the most wonderful relationship with him. The key is to be prepared.
Second possibility. You’re probably not doing enough, if you haven’t first work on yourself to have crystal clear what you are looking for in a partner and know what you have to offer. Even if you are going out and meeting people constantly, you might miss your chance to recognize him even if you were in the same room because you haven’t work on yourself first. Or even worst you might meet the wrong man, because you are not fully prepared. Not being fully prepared is what will surely backfire your efforts. You might date someone for couple of weeks or months and suddenly without explanation you get dumped, or after a while it’s you whom realize that he’s not what you were actually looking for. Either case you’re disappointed and have to start all over again.
“Insanity Is Doing the Same Thing Over and Over Again and Expecting Different Results” Albert Einstein
Third Possibility. You are maybe doing everything wrong, if you have not clue of what you want and what you have to offer. And you are making random efforts to meet people. You might be living the same scenario as in the second possibility where you date someone for a while just to be left disappointed and maybe even heartbroken and need to start over and over again.
Needless to say that finding the ONE can be around the corner or can be in five or ten years. The best way to get there faster is by knowing what you want and what you have to offer, by doing constant efforts to meet him, by recognizing him as soon as he crossed your path and by eliminating the wrong candidates soon enough so you don’t waste your precious time and heart.
What you have to ask yourself:
1. Am I doing constant efforts to meet him?
2. How prepared am I to recognizing him?
3. Do I know how to filter the wrong candidates?
You probably want to change the vicious cycle of trial and error and the truth is that there is not simple answer. It’s like changing your lifestyle. There is a process and that takes time and efforts. Of course you can leave it to luck but sadly luck is not enough because by now you know that even if you meeting the right person is only a part of the equation of having a marvellous relationship. Being prepared is the real key if you want it to last.
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